Everything that happened to us in childhood - shaped us into who were are now.
There are things we all believe that are not healthy for us.
There are things we all believe that we don't realise we believe...
Today I am going to delve into what some of my beliefs are - both positive and negative..
Beliefs that have a positive influence on my life.
- I can and will be so much more
- I am destined for success
- I am capable of creating the life I want
- I will celebrate large successes in my life
- I will write novels - I was born to write
- I will use adversity to create strength and power
- I have a kind heart
- Others like me
- Others can feel my warmth
- My pets are happy and enjoy the lifestyle I provide them
- I will break the cycle of family problems
- I will create a beautiful, loving home and family
- I will be a good mother
- I will work to attain all of my goals
- Daily actions towards my goals create results
- I am worth it
- I deserve to be happy
- I will age gracefully
- Aging is beautiful
- My marriage will be happy and strong
- I can cope with what life throws at me
- I am strong
- I am resilient
- I am very fortunate
- I feel blessed and am in touch with my spiritual self
- I am guided by my spiritual self to make good decisions and always take the right path
- Everything happens for a reason - it will all work out
- In crisis I ask what am I meant to learn from this - I then work with it rather than resist
- I will blossom into a beautiful woman at age 30 and life will get better and better from there
Beliefs that have a negative influence on my life.
- I am not worthy of happiness
- I don't deserve all the wealth I want
- I deserve to feel bad
- I deserve to be treated poorly
- I am not good enough
- Dad doesn't love me because I'm not good enough. I am damaged goods
- My family abandoned me because I am not worth their love
- I never stick to anything - I know I will stuff it up or revert to the old me
- People don't like me
- I am a prickly person who people don't like
- My presence can have an immediate negative response on others
- I am so unpolished I am ugly and rough
- I will never have a brand new.......
- I will never make my dreams come true
- I've done bad things and deserve to feel bad
- I am odd
Beliefs I have held in the past - but have worked to let go of:
- I am a failure
- I need drugs and alcohol to get through
- The pain of life is unbearable
- I just want to die - it would be better than living
- I am powerless
- Life is horrible
- Life is cruel
- I am just waiting to get out of this hell hole called life
- There is no such thing as love - everyone treats everyone poorly
- Love is nothing but pain
- No one will ever be there for me - I am totally alone and don't deserve love
- I am so damaged no one will ever love me
- I am unlovable
- Everything I touch turns to disaster
- I am always sick
- I catch everything that goes around
- There is something wrong with me
- My life has been a disaster from the start
- What will go wrong next
- My dreams are childish and stupid
- Life is just for work and pain
- I hate myself
- I hate the world
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I see everyone of these beliefs as a pair of glasses through which you view the world. It is obvious the different life experiences you will be giving yourself wearing glasses from the bottom list as apposed to the top list.
We have the choice in every situation to view it however we want - to make the situation positive or negative. If we are unhappy - then that is our choice. If we are angry, upset or 'devastated' that too is our choice.
We have the choice in every situation to view it however we want - to make the situation positive or negative. If we are unhappy - then that is our choice. If we are angry, upset or 'devastated' that too is our choice.
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Examples of how we are in control:
You're fired from your job (made redundant etc)
A loved one hasn't called you in a while:
That person really irks me:
You're fired from your job (made redundant etc)
- Attitude one: This is the end of the world - I have given that company everything - they are a bunch of *&^%$##@@!!!!! - My life is ruined - this is the worst thing that has ever happened to me - what am I going to do now - I going to the pub to get good and messed up.
- Attitude two: Well this isn't what I was expecting to happen today. I wonder why it did happen today? There must be something else for me around the corner - I wonder what it will be - what opportunity will come from this - what job do I want that I would never have gone for while I was working here? I wonder where I'll be in three months.. A big desk ?- a higher wage - more job opportunities.
A loved one hasn't called you in a while:
- Attitude one: I cannot believe the lack of respect. What if something had happened to me and no one ever bothered to call - I deserve better than this he/she should call at least once a week - is that too much to ask for - aren't I important enough? - there are family things happening that he/she should know about - why do I always have to be the one to call - what about me? - I am the glue that holds everyone together - if it wasn't for me always busting my butt making sure everyone is in contact - well the family would just fall apart.
- Attitude two: Perhaps I should give ..... a call it's been a while.
That person really irks me:
- Attitude one: He's just idiot - I can't even stand looking at him. I can't believe he chose to do that - why would anyone in their right mind do that - look at him what a jerk. I can barely be civil to him - every time I talk to him he makes me so mad - I wish I never had to have anything to do with him again.
- Attitude two: What is it about him I don't like, and why? What we don't like in others is generally something we don't like about ourselves reflected..... We all do the best with what we have to work with at the time - perhaps he is having a hard time...
We have the ability to make these decisions every second of every day.
*******Your life is a reflection of your attitude*******
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